We tend to get lost in life. We can loose ourselves based on many different scenarios. Climbing a corporate ladder, relationships, raising our children, loosing a loved one, being alone. Regardless of the circumstances that leads us to ask this very question, "Who am I?" Quite simply it is that we are "lost". We have come to be aware of an empty feeling, a 'VOID' in our life.
You could have come to this conclusion slowly over a period of time or it could have arisen just waking up one day while you pondered your life. Now you find yourself in the moment asking, "Who am I?" You could spend some time analyzing HOW you got to this point. Should you do this? I would suggest you only spend a bit of time evaluating your life to obtain a better understanding of what led you to this 'VOID'.
Knowing the answer to 'HOW' may not remove the 'VOID', however it could help you to understand what happened in your life that you neglected, or allowed to happen so that you may now be aware of what it was that had your reach the 'VOID' point to prevent it from reoccurring. The 'VOID' is here so now what? You can spend endless days and nights struggling to fill this void. Do not waste away your precious time searching for 'FILLS' that will only sugar coat the situation temporarily. ‘FILLS’ are quick fixes that just do not last long enough to make a difference. Instead of using ’FILLS’, start searching and discovering yourself so that you can remove the 'VOID'. You might be sitting there now saying, "I know myself pretty well already!" If that is the case, then you have your answer and there is NO void. You should know that knowing one's self is an on-going process. We are human beings with ever changing lives, with changing circumstances. So, really self-discovery does not have a finality to it.
Now why spend time discovering yourself if we change over time? This is why. We all have our own basic make-up. Our own likes, dislikes that we are well aware of. I, personally, dislike spinach. This does not waver for me. I KNOW THIS! Now, do not mistake this for meaning a person who does not like spinach may one day discover, even though they previously disliked spinach, a new taste which makes them thoroughly like and enjoy spinach. I, myself, do not see ever finding that taste or day that I will like spinach. I am ok with that. We each have our own basic make-up, which only you know that about yourself better than anyone else.
What I recommend is taking time to expand your basics. Get to know what makes YOU happy. What do you yourself enjoy doing? What makes you smile? What makes you happy? What gets you excited about life? What have you done lately that has allowed you to focus on that smile, that happy place, that excitement? Most likely you have spent many hours, days or maybe even weeks or months dwelling on the 'VOID' which does not fix or fill it.
One of life's important lessons to learn is NO ONE but YOU can create your own happiness. You are the only one who can remove the 'VOID'. NO ONE is responsible for making you happy except yourself.
Spend some time learning and discovering yourself. When you do this, then take action! The 'VOID' begins to disappear as you suddenly make the changes that you need to in order to remove it. As I said, filling a void is different than removing the void. When you dedicate more time to discovering yourself, living the life you have, you can create the life you want. When you discover the things that make you happy, enjoy them and allow yourself to be happy. Miraculous changes will occur that previously you never imagined were possible. Your life becomes more fulfilled. When this happens, you will see changes for the better. These changes occurred by you discovering yourself. The 'Void' you may presently have in your life does not need to follow you into the future, remove it. You will find this an easier task to take on once you spend some time focusing on your own self-discovery. Do not beat yourself up if you are feeling lost. It happens.
Just know if you are lost, it gives you the chance to be found. Self-discovery is a journey only you can make for yourself.
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. Aristotle
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