How many days have you felt overwhelmed by all the 'To-Do List', that race through your mind? On those days, it is amazing as quickly as things are added to that list, not so quickly do they get accomplished. Sure enough, one some are completed, more are just added, as if they multiply themselves while waiting for you to get around to them.
How do you prioritize the list? How do you stop letting it multiply? How do you stop stressing over that big list that has no ending?
You buy Post-it notes!! The smaller, the better. These days they make them so small you can barely get more that a word or two written on them. Write out you 'To-Do List'. If you use the small ones you might have to use a lot of them, but then you have one task per post-it note so you take on one task at a time. Writing out your 'To-Do-List', frees up room within your mind to think clearly. As you accomplish each task, toss it out, let it go, be done with it…Mission accomplished. One less thing to do.
Have a look at your 'To-Do List' that is now written out on post-it notes. Ask yourself these questions as you look at each task.
- 1)Can I mix it up somehow so it is less stressful to accomplish?
- 2) Do I get any happiness from doing this?
If you have a list of tedious task before you that you are dreading, things you procrastinate doing, find a way to add some happiness into doing them. Let's say washing a sink full of dirty dishes is not your cup of tea. You put it off, yet the dishes still keep piling up until there is not a single cup in the cupboard to use. Now you are forced to wash them. You know they surely won't wash themselves. How could you possibly enjoy washing these dishes, the one thing you avoid as long as you possibly can? As you wash these dishes, start thinking of how these dishes got dirty in the first place. Who used these dishes? Who drank from this glass, who ate from this fork? Was it you? Did the drink that had been in this glass quench your thirst? Was it your favorite drink? Was the meal that was eaten off this plate, with this fork, a delicious meal? Who did you share this meal with? When you think about how all these dishes got dirty, you can be thankful for the meals, the people who are in your lives that these dishes provided their services to. You are thinking about life, your life. Ta-Da… dishes are done. Instead of focusing on the tedious, dreadful task, you took a moment to quietly reflect on life. You added happiness into the task which probably made it less irritating. Even if it is only you that made these dishes dirty, you are still alive to enjoy life making these dishes dirty again and again. Learn to add happiness to the things you do.
Do you stress over how clean your house is or how nice your lawn looks? That will be the day when a house cleans itself or the lawn mows itself. If you are obsessed and always stressing over how meticulous everything in your home is, how pristine your lawn looks, you are instilling that memory in those around you. You will be remembered for having the cleanest house, for having the perfect lawn and to those who really know you, for being stressed about it all. If that is how you want to be remembered long after you are gone, then go for it. If not, then clean when you can. Spend time doing the things that make the memories, the things that matter to you, what you want to be remembered for. This way you can enjoy the cleaning process because you are now doing it by choice, not because you have to. Ask any child what matters more to them, having a clean house or having time spent with you? You can learn a valuable lesson from that child. They simplify stress by speaking the truth as they know it. They are wise beyond their years as they have not yet been corrupted into creating stress over creating memories. Learn to make memories while you are living.
- 4) Will it matter 20 years from now?
The answer, probably not. Most things we allow to stress us in our life, doesn't really last. Time moves on, so will whatever is happening now. We replace one stress with another because we move past each one. Asking yourself, Will it matter to me in 20 years, eliminates the minimal stresses, allowing you to place your focus on what will matter now and 20 years from now. You will have less stress because you will no longer be spread so thin dealing with several mini stresses, as you let them go, you can deal with the bigger ones. The perfectly clean house, the pristinely mowed lawn, the clean spotless dishes, will they matter 20 years from now? Trut me, you will have 20 years of house cleaning and it will still need to be cleaned. Maybe not today but it will tomorrow. 20 years of lawn mowing and that grass will still be growing. 20 years of washing dishes and they will be dirty many more times. Learn what will matter in 20 years from now and focus more time on that.
You will feel more satisfied with what you accomplish in a day and you will know it matters to you. It may take some time to reprogram yourself when dealing with stress and prioritizing your 'To-Do List'. Start by asking these questions and also understand, most people create their own stress. Let's go back to the clean house again. If you are stressing over someone coming to your house and it is not as spotless as you want it to be, worrying over what they may thing, you just created your own stress. You do not know what they will think. Are they coming to visit you or just to look at your house to see how clean it is? If it is the latter, then when they come over, give them the keys so they can come clean your house. There is nothing wrong with having a clean home, unless you are stressing over it and have no time to live because you are always cleaning. Remember a lived in looking house means you are living.
Understanding why you are stressed or overwhelmed with your 'To-Do List' helps to alleviate the stress by prioritizing what matters.
"Mix it up, find happiness in what you do, do what matters, create memories" - NJ
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